I’ve been using a homemade shea-aloe vera-oil mixture on my hair prior to twisting and it’s helping to keep my hair moisturized during this crazy cold weather. As I’ve being using shea butter on a regular basis I’ve started shampooing weekly (with a J/A/S/O/N shampoo) and using a Suave conditioner for co-washing and Gariner Fruitus Triple Nutrition Conditioner or some other conditioner I’m testing out to deep condition.  I’ve tried Jane Carter and Burt Bees with good results but not better than any of the other conditioners I’ve been using.  I’m still using my Giovanni Direct Leave in but now I’m also using Taliah Waajid Protective Mist Bodifier as a daily spritz to keep my twists mosturized.

I’ve done several amla treatments, 1 cassia and 1 henna treatment and I plan to write about those during the weekend.

So I’m curious to hear from you, What products/styles have you be trying this winter?

I’ve been searching everywhere but I can’t find any information concerning what KLS uses on the girls hair.  Either way much props to Kimora, Aoki and Ming Lee for their faboulous dos!!

I’ve been thinking a lot about this blog: why I’m doing it, what direction I want it to take and how much time I want to spend on it.  I have to admit, blogging is not something I knew much about or ever desired to do. 

But since going natural, I’ve been inspired by the many interesting bloggers out there. I started this blog because I wanted to chronicle my natural journey starting from TWA to shoulder length hair. In looking at the web, most of the natural hair resources are focused on people who’ve been natural for a few years or transitioned for a year before their BC.  The majority of them have a good 5 or 6 inches of hair to work with.  There are very few people talking about when they had a fade or only 1/4 of an inch of hair so I decided to fill that void.

But as I’ve started to follow more blogs I’ve realized that I have way more to talk about besides hair and maybe others are interested in those topics as well. I am also interested in hearing the thoughts of those of you who read this blog and engaging in some interesting conversations.

This has lead me to do some researching on blogging (yes, I should have did this before, but now I’ve got a brand new content area to post about!!): What is it?, How to get started?, Where should my blog be located?, Do I want to host it myself or use a free site?  Now I have the answers to these questions and a plan of attack.  The first step of that plan is moving my blog to a new location: http://jrnytothenxtlvl.wordpress.com/

I think that this move will make it easier for me to blog and add features that will make this blog more interesting, easier to connect to and to communicate through.  I’ll still keep the Blogger site up for a while but my new blog on WordPress is where I’ll be putting up new posts.

My next post was originally going to be about nutrition and fitness but I’ve had a few hair epiphanies that I just have to share.  Inspired by Curly Niki’s post about how black folk did their hair back in the day, I asked my mom about her hair (which I haven’t seen in decades due to her wigs but I vow that before I die I will know the truth).  She says her natural hair is wavy but she used to relax it herself when I was young.  The funny part is I don’t ever remember seeing her relax her hair but I do remember relaxer in the house (because I decided to relax one of my white dolls hair with it, Black Barbie for some reason didn’t need a perm).  I asked my mom about how she did my hair and she told me that she put Vigorol, in my hair.  I didn’t remember this until I looked the stuff up and suddenly the horrible smell brought back memories of this disgusting clear liquid.  Apparently this stuff is some kinda of texturizer that my mom says she used to make my hair easier to comb so that it was easier for her to press (which she barely ever did).

I don’t think this stuff really straightened my hair but I do feel like I’ve lost the ability to say that my hair was natural until I was fourteen. This could be another reason why my texture seems so different that it did when I was younger.  I am starting to feel a sense of pride associated with being natural and it feels good.  But then the point of going natural now is to move on from the old relaxers and texturizers and start taking care of my hair.

I’m also a little obssessed with my hair growth at this point.  I like the TWA don’t get me wrong but I can’t wait to do some twists and coils.  I one of those ladies who is used to having long hair to play with and I when I was young my hair was so long, I keep looking back at those old pictures just salivating over my hair.

This is good shot of how long my hair was back then, I believe I was about 10:

Clarify – Weekly – Apple Cider Vinegar rise (1 Tblsp ACV to 1 cup of warm water)
Co-wash- 2x a week – Natures Gate Tea Tree Conditioner followed by Herbal Essences Totally Twisted Conditioner
Deep Condition - Weekly – Lustrasilk Shea Butter Cholesterol Plus (contains Mango Butter) – I’m thinking about adding Olive Oil to this when it starts getting really cold
Leave in Conditioner – Suave Naturals Tropical Coconut Conditioner
Sealant – Mix of  melted Unrefined Shea Butter, Jojoba Oil, Tea Tree Oil and Sweet Almond Oil
Curl Definer (Depending on mood/style) – Garnier Fructis Style Fiber Gum Putty or Herbal Essences Set Me Up Gel
Daily Spritz -Water, V05 Moisture Milks Strawberries and Creme

So basically I removed as much glycerin out of my styling routine as I could (the  Suave has some glycerin in it) and added a weekly deep conditioner.  I have some Aphogee Essential Oils from my relaxed days, this is pretty much a hot oil treatment but as it has protein in it I will only use this on a monthly basis. My hair is pretty strong and I’m getting a little protein from the V05 and Suave so I’m thinking that should suffice.

Clarify as needed – Apple Cider Vinegar rise (1 Tblsp ACV to 1 cup of warm water)
Co-wash- 2x a week – Natures Gate Tea Tree Conditioner followed by Herbal Essences Totally Twisted Conditioner
Leave in Conditioner – V05 Moisture Milks Strawberries and Creme
Curl Definer – Aloe Vera Gel
Sealant – Mix of  melted Unrefined Shea Butter, Jojoba Oil, Tea Tree Oil and Sweet Almond Oil
Daily Spritz -Water, Glycerin, V05 Moisture Milks, Strawberries and Creme

I live in DC and it’s getting to cold to do daily wash and gos, besides I don’t like having to do my hair in the morning so I’ll do my Co-washing and Conditioning at night and when I wake up in the morning spritz my hair and then use my sealant mixture.

And this is how my hair looks as a result:

I tested them on different sections of my hair, I’m do to wash my hair so there is some build up from the past few days but I didn’t feel like washing my hair to try all this stuff and then having to wash it out again.  Besides if any of these products can define a curl on 3 day old hair, fresh wash hair will be no problem!!

First up Scurl

Nada, I really didn’t think that this would work on my hair but I’ve seen tons of posts of people with 4 textured hair saying that curl activator helped define their curls. Oh well.  Maybe this will be good for twists when my hair gets longer. So for Curl Definition on a scale of 0 to 5 curls this gets, 0.

Next Herbal Essences

It’s hard to see with all the product build up but this stuff really made my coils come together in a defined fashion.  It was like I put a texturizer in my hair, I was surprised because deep down I really didn’t think that any of these gels could make my hair curlier I was never the person who could gel my edges down and make them look smoother, but then I was using products for relaxed hair so it make sense that that stuff didn’t work.  This stuff even smoothed and curled up my edges.  This product gets 4 Curls.

Next Garnier Fructis

Last but not least we have the IC Gel

I’m posting today to get some thoughts off of my head about kinky/nappy/textured hair.  So I’m entering my 3rd week post big chop, I’m feeling more comfortable/proud of my hair everyday.  I’m also enjoying the freedom from styling: not having to worry that working out will cause my hair to sweat out, not having to check my hair and see if it’s out of place during the day, not having to spend much time on it during the week and finally people can focus on my face more now that my hair is out of the way.

Now that I’m learning about my natural hair texture it’s making me realize that I’ve had a lot of preconceived notions about my hair (and very sure a lot of Black women will recognize these ideas):


It is hard to find the right products for my hair – So many of the products branded for African American hair are not good for our hair as they contain chemicals that are harmful to our natural hair texture and only work marginally well on hair after it’s relaxed.  There are so many products made for curly hair that work just fine on our type of hair but because we’ve never tried to use them because we think “that only works on white people’s hair”.  Well it turns out that hair is just hair, now if you start changing the chemical structure of your hair and you eat junk food all the time I can’t say those “white” hair products are going to work on your hair because it’s so damaged.

I have thick coarse/rough hair- After using products that are made for curly hair, my hair is soft to the touch and getting curly/coily.  My hair is actually medium textured but it’s very dense, so while I can get a lot of volume from my hair I need to protect it because my strands aren’t that resistant. I wore my hair naturally until I was 14 and don’t remember having any distinguishable curl pattern and it was always dry.  Well my mom used grease (which was mostly petroleum jelly or mineral oil) in my hair and waited until it was dry to try to comb and brush it, no wonder it was so hard to manage. Consequently, she would only wash it every 2 weeks probably because she didn’t want to have to deal with it. It’s no wonder why I wanted a  perm.

My hair is so puffy, I wish it would lie down flat like everyone else’s hair after it gets relaxed – Yes my hair was puffy, my poor roots were trying to fight off the chemicals that’s why a little bit of sweat would have them trying to coil up again.  That’s why after I’d wash my hair or even just after a relaxer, my hair would stand up at the roots and I’d have to flat iron it after drying it to get it to lay down.  But why should my hair lay down? Why does my hair have to be straight? I can wear it curly, braided, twisted or straight if I choose.  My natural hair gives me so many more options. Why on earth did I use a chemical to straighten my hair and restrict my options?


My hair is thick and unmanageable and I hate to do it (style it) – I used to hate doing my hair, I’d have to: wash it several times due to crazy dandruff that wouldn’t go away; condition it; put in a leave in conditioner and  hair glosser and oil; blow dry my hair for over an hour to get it dry; flat iron my hair in sections for over an hour to get it flat and smooth and then curl my hair.  The style would look good but it would only last for one day unless I rolled it up in sections over night.  I held this idea in my head that relaxed hair was easier to manage and gave me more options, probably due my experiences as a child. I was never taught how to do cornrolls or twists or anything.  I knew how to braid but I wasn’t allowed to “mess in my hair” (I know a lot of you out there remember that!, I bet if I told a White girl that I wasn’t allowed to do my own hair or cut my own hair as child she would even know what to do with that! I can see the look of pure amazement right now!) so I never got a chance to be comfortable with my own hair and I was going to extreme lengths to make my hair look like something it wasn’t.

I am coming to the realization that all the things that our mothers and grandmothers taught us about what to use on our hair and how to do our hair were wrong *looking over my shoulder hoping that Mama Dear isn’t going to come out of no where and knock me up side my head*.

I can’t blame them, they were only doing what they were taught and what some clever person figured out that we could do to make white people accept us more.  Back in the days, White folks were cheating us out of money, land, jobs etc.  They were lynching us just for looking Black.

All of this stuff was adaptive, people were just trying to survive.  Even though things are better now and you can get fair treatment just being the way you were born (I said can get fair treatment, not necessarily meaning that you will get fair treatment) we still have those old mindsets.  It’s going to take us more that 30 years to get over 300 years of adaptive strategies.  But if any one can do it, we can.